It's really hard to explain to your husband why you don't hang out or see your friends much. It's really hard to explain to him that when people have kids, usually they kinda drop the non-kid friends for awhile... or longer.
It makes perfect sense. You hang out with people that you have things in common with. Having a kid is such a major event that of course it consumes the new parents and of course they naturally attach with others who are in the same phase and have the same concerns. It's hard to explain that new parents sometimes feel odd asking non-kid people to hang out because they don't think non-kid people will understand when conversation is stopped for a juice box interruption, or a nursing interruption, or a so-help-me-what-did-you-eat diaper change.
Especially when your friends know how long you have been trying for kids to no avail. It's not that your new parent friends are jerks, or ignoring others, it's simply that the new parents are sensitive to others. Let's be real, do they really have time for anything outside the new baby?
Having to explain to your husband these complex dynamics is really hard and really painful... and draining.
Life is different as a new parent, or so I've been told.
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